tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post698965657949775931..comments2023-10-16T13:17:17.552+01:00Comments on Being of Sound Mind: Shhh!lucy joyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04863146546863419637noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-92105607009141562802011-08-19T23:01:35.638+01:002011-08-19T23:01:35.638+01:00Scarlett - you clearly HAVE to move, all your neig...Scarlett - you clearly HAVE to move, all your neighbours crampo your style,get outta the ghetto.<br />Jem - shouting isn't for me at all, I try and it is never genuine; so doesn't have an effect. I'm a sulker (unfortunately)<br />Lou/Vix - I didn't have either of you down as gobshites, I thought you were the refined ladies of the group. My character judging skills obviously don't work on blogger.<br />Max - I agree, and often wonder if parents just exaggerate and showcase their discipline in public.<br />Little Nell - I won't be retiring to Lanzarote, unless my hearing deteriorates like my mum's has!<br />Steerforth - I love an anecdote! I was there, behaving just like you. Doing TOO good a job of acting like 'I don't mind' and secretly thinking "piss off, imposters, can't you see I'm spending quality time with MY son? I'm just about holding out interest in him - so to expect me to feign interest in your kids too is a bit much. Next you'll be asking me to keep an eye on them while you drop mum-in-law to bingo and go home to make love to your wife!".<br /><br />Hmm, maybe I'm the one who is unfriendly and easily annoyed?lucy joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863146546863419637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-81137252587172078662011-08-19T11:53:05.312+01:002011-08-19T11:53:05.312+01:00I've often lied about my children's ages t...I've often lied about my children's ages to save money. I'm not proud of it, but there have been times when that was the only way we could afford a day out. I wish that all entrance fees could be a percentage of people's income.<br /><br />Loud parents drive me mad. I hate the mums who talk in babyish voices and say 'little' like a two-year-old: "Look at the lit-tle man Pop-py. Isn't he funny Pop-py?" Or the men who want you to see what a great, fun dad they are: "HEY JOSH, LET'S SEE HOW HIGH WE CAN GO! WOW! THIS IS FUN ISN'T IT!"<br /><br />Last we I took my youngest to a local pond. It was a lovely day and we sat down and put our fishing nets in the water. Half an hour later, a South African couple arrived with a young boy, a girl and a mother-in-law. The boy picked up my son's net and started using it and although his father said "You cunt use thet nit, eet's someone ilse's nit", I tried to be nice and said that it was okay if the boy had a go, (meaning just a few minutes).<br /><br />The parents sat down with Mum on a bench and had a chat and a fag, whilst I suddenly found myself child-minding, listening to two over-friendly children telling me how good they were at catching frogs. I was getting increasingly pissed off, but also wondered if the problem was mine for being so unfriendly and easily annoyed.<br /><br />I'm not sure what the point of that anecdote was, but I'm glad I got it off my chest!Steerforthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07627936539372313828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-35612169100450908952011-08-19T00:30:50.542+01:002011-08-19T00:30:50.542+01:00I find as I get older that I less and less toleran...I find as I get older that I less and less tolerant of noise. The natives of Lanzarote do NOT speak quietly and for some reason bellow at each other when they are standing almost nose to nose. There is some building work being done by a neighbour at the moment, and the work gang arrived at just after 7.00 a.m today, screeching to a halt and jumping out of the car, the three of them proceeded to have an animated and very loud shouted conversation in the road. Why did they get out of the car to do this? Though that’s not quite the way I put it this morning!<br /><br />As for the children, in my experience as a headteacher, it was the shouty parents who had noisy children, not surprisingly. I learned years ago that shouting at children doesn’t work when it is the norm, but on the rare occasions when I chose to raise my voice to signal disapproval it had instant attention.<br /><br />Catching your reflection when out and about is to be avoided, I agree, but mine is for the shock realisation that the old bag in the shop window is actually ME! When did that happen? I’d go back to ‘mummy-tummy’ days if it meant I was as gorgeous as you and Scarlett.Little Nellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11862657943846727987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-5507570530072193692011-08-18T22:41:36.337+01:002011-08-18T22:41:36.337+01:00Obama? NO!Obama? NO!lucy joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863146546863419637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-77570204536113278322011-08-18T21:32:08.534+01:002011-08-18T21:32:08.534+01:00Shouting so doesn't work! I think the constant...Shouting so doesn't work! I think the constant shouty instructions for the kids are actually for other peoples benefit. You know, look I'm a good parent, I tell them what to do all the time, so if there's any misbehaviour it not my fault. <br />Poor micro-managed, slightly deafened kids! (and poor, poor little Obama!!!!)Maxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18387407423793099797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-36778776934119030102011-08-18T19:33:51.219+01:002011-08-18T19:33:51.219+01:00I haven't got kids but I'm always being to...I haven't got kids but I'm always being told off for being too loud. <br />You're spot on though, Lucy, some mothers are dreadful although I do love to overhear a ridiculous baby name, it makes my day. There was an Obama (white girl toddler) misbehaving at this morning's boot sale! xVixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05263970600699632661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-80340447883648932342011-08-18T17:32:42.161+01:002011-08-18T17:32:42.161+01:00Er yes, that'll be me. I'm very loud but ...Er yes, that'll be me. I'm very loud but then I always have been. My partner used to call my friend and I "banshees", back in the day, for our loud and attention seeking behaviour! (Oh, those were the days......). <br /><br />I try to avoid looking at myself in any reflective surface too...Loo xx from Jumbles and Pompomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13570354905749566677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-3674399909632473292011-08-18T17:00:19.943+01:002011-08-18T17:00:19.943+01:00So many parents are just far to shouty altogether....So many parents are just far to shouty altogether. I think once you're shouting at your children constantly it must completely lose it's effect for when you really DO need to shout!<br /><br />Jem xXxJem https://www.blogger.com/profile/03909795752665059574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7316895433129716754.post-88224503243480227472011-08-18T14:14:43.987+01:002011-08-18T14:14:43.987+01:00Oh my yes yes yes some parents are too loud! This...Oh my yes yes yes some parents are too loud! This made me laugh so much as ive been having the same conversation with hubby about our new neighbours. They have two boys, the oldest about 6 who plays outside with the other children in the close. When it hits 5.30 she opens the front door and bellows "OLIVER TEA IS READY!!!!", over and over until the kid decides to come inside. Both her and her husband are very large and tend to not walk further than they have to so if any thing they need to tell their kids is generally shouted unless said child is in the room with them.<br /><br />And i do the same thing with refective surfaces - normally combined with a reel back in horror at my "mummy tummy" - i think i should just start wearing large mumu dresses ;o)<br /><br />Scarlett xScarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06127736256417833208noreply@blogger.com